Home-Based Business Is a Scary Concept
Ever take a long look at a business owner? They are financially independent, confident, and free from all of the garbage that being someone’s employee brings with it. Maybe they’re driving the car you’ve always wanted, or are living in the house in which you’ve always pictured yourself, and you’re a bit jealous. You can’t help but think that “sure, he can afford those things-he owns his own business.”
We are absolutely comfortable explaining somebody’s successes by this “having his own business”-thing, and, yet, the idea of becoming one of this people terrifies us like nothing else.
Go ask any of your friends if they would be interested in joining you in a home based business – without any preparation they will give you at list five reasons why it’s not going to work. They have never done it, they have never known anybody who’d tried it, but they know for sure that “You are going to lose everything on that.”
Why do we constantly shoot ourselves in the foot? Why are we more likely to scare ourselves into submission than to try anything new? Have we been conditioned to fail?
It’s a complicated question with a complicated answer. Let’s break it down.
The entire concept behind the Prussian System-our system of education-is to make reliable employees out of everyone.
All through our school years, even up through university, we are taught to be upright citizens within society, to conform and find a job, waste the next four or five decades toiling away for a boss who doesn’t really care about us. The only thing we’re working for is a retirement that will allow us simply exist without bumming money from our loved ones.
It’s classic reward-anticipation behavior-like Pavlov’s dogs. To advance in life, we are taught that we need to be a good employee and provide hard work for our betters.
We are taught that the only option for us to work for someone else and do so happily for a pat on the back and a handful of cash, totally forgetting our own dignity!
What happened to your childhood dreams of being an astronaut, a fighter pilot, or a deep sea diver? When did you start thinking that being a desk jockey was an acceptable replacement for those dreams?
Because in school and college you were explained that, it’s impractical, you need to make money and provide for your family, and you need something real, like to become an engineer or an accountant.
Time passes and without you even noticing you’ve spent the better part of your life working for someone you don’t like, doing something you really couldn’t care less about, and hoping for a turn of good fortune in the future. Do you want your kids to end up like that?
That’s what your parents taught you, that’s what your kids will teach their kids unless somebody in this chain will have enough balls to break the cycle and to turn things around.
By working for yourself you can take your life back and regain the future you always wanted.
It so scary! Mainly because it’s something new, something you’ve never done before.
Especially something like an Internet based business, with all the hype and rumors about it!
That’s where the “Comfort Zone” comes to play.
How do we learn anything?
We learn by repeatition, just like when you were learning to write. Remember? It was hard to begin with but now you don’t even think about it.
The same way you learn to ride a bike, to play tennis, pick up girls and to order food in the restaurant.
Through repetition you become who you are as well.
If every aspect of your job makes you cringe: going in early, staying late, putting up with bad situations and garbage from your boss and co-workers-you’re not alone! You say to yourself that things are only temporary, that’ll you find something better, but it never does.
Someday, maybe sooner than later, your eyes will open and you’ll see that, without your knowledge, you have become a cookie-cutter representative of everyone you share an occupation with. You own the same style of car, wear the same clothes, speak the same language, and even have the same hobbies!
Learning through repetition has led you down the path to become who you are and has made everything in your life fall into one of two categories: familiar and unfamiliar.
You become comfortable with the familiar things and the unfamiliar things cause anxiety by releasing a burst of adrenalin into your bloodstream.
Even tiny amounts of adrenalin can influence your decision making. Think of it as chemical induced stress-avoidance behavior-it can run your life if you let it!
“It’s in the moment of making a decision when the destiny is formed!”-said Tony Robbins.
But you are not going to make a decision about doing anything unfamiliar because of that adrenalin in your blood. Like an airplane on autopilot you will be getting back to what is familiar and to what you are accustomed to.
Everyone you know will be a big help at keeping you in line as well.
Look around at the people you call friends. It’s kind of interesting that you don’t really hang around anyone who makes much less than you do or anyone who makes much more. Studies have found that a person’s incomes can often be figured as an average of the incomes of their seven closest acquaintances.
Ask any of them about starting a new business venture and earning six figures a year and you’ll get blank stares, excuses, recipes for failure, and panic. They don’t know anything about any of that and can’t help you get there either. All you’ll hear is that it just won’t work, that stuff like that never really happens.
And you will gladly use their opinion to justify your decision. It’s much easier for you to continue doing what you are doing, even though you don’t like it and deep inside you feel that you deserve a better life and more money.
Thich Nhat Hanh wrote something hundreds of years ago but he could just as well have written them today: “people are having a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of fear of the unknown they prefer suffering that is familiar.” Sound a little bit like you?
You’ve heard all about Global Resort Network, have read, watched, and listened to all the testimonials of people who have success dealing with them but you’re still not ready to take that next step. You can’t let your life be ruled by what-ifs. What is something goes wrong? What if this I can succeed? What if I do succeed?
Listen to this.
Before my first Tae Kwon Do tournament fight I went to my instructor, Master Shilkaitis, and told him that though I wanted to compete, but I wasn’t sure that I was ready. He told me that I “would never feel one hundred percent ready. It’s just a matter of finding the strength and desire to win and overcoming your fear.”
In that fight, I took third place by knocking my opponent cold but I was so frightened at the time that I still don’t remember it even happening.
Having me talk to you all day won’t do any good. Either you will decide to take the next step or you will fall back into your old comfortable ways and never stray outside your comfort zone.
Nothing changes without you making a decision to change it.
Make a change in your life today!
It will be scary in the beginning, it will feel very uncomfortable and strange, but that’s when you know that you are changing things!
Choose to live the life you want to live!
Maybe the next time you hear someone’s jealous remarks about being able to afford those fancy things, they’ll be talking about you!
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